End of Life Eldercare Essentials

An online workshop series for adults with ageing elders in their life who know nothing or very little about the end of life experience.

At the end of it you will understand the terminology, what’s involved and what’s most important – the basic things you need to know.

7 Session Workshop Series

Commencing Tuesday April 13, 2020, 7pm – 9pm

Your elders are getting older.

We like to think that they are invincible, that they’ll be around forever, yet we know that they won’t.

You want to make sure that the process will be as easy as possible, but you have no idea where to start.

You haven’t experienced any of this before and honestly, you feel overwhelmed at the thought of it all:

  • Who decides what happens if they can’t talk?
  • What would they like at their funeral?
  • Do they have choice around where they die?
  • What do you do once they’ve died?
  • How will you cope?
  • What does dying look like? Is it scary?

It’s all too much.

So you stop thinking about it. You’ll find out what you need to know when it gets closer. Right?

Does any of this sound familiar?

End of Life Eldercare Essentials

I get that you may not want to think about this stuff, it’s sad to think about your elders not being around, that it can be scary, that it can be overwhelming…and maybe with thinking about your elder’s end of life it may put your own mortality in your face?

But you know what, avoiding this topic won’t make it easier.

You won’t just magically know everything you need to know when the time arrives.  You may have heard the saying, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.”  We plan holidays, weekends away, family celebrations, wedding etc, yet how much do we plan for end of life?  This is a time of life where planning can make a significant difference to the quality of the experience for all involved.

That’s why I’m here to help you.

I’ve created an online 7 part series on the basics that you need to know to help you understand the terminology, the processes, what’s involved and how to make the most of your elders’ end of life experience.

Now before you get scared, I promise you there will be laughs, yes, laughs. It’s not all heavy and sad – there can be joy and laughter too. There could also be tears. Who am I kidding? Yes, there will be tears, and it’s a fair chance mine will be in there too.

This workshop series will equip you with some basic information to help you start to navigate the challenges that come with ageing elders. Truly, this series could be never ending with all the different scenarios that can play out, but that would defeat the purpose of helping you to avoid overwhelm.

Because I had had the sessions with Sharon, I was prepared, and I was strong and in my power about what my Mum needed and wanted in the final days and hours of her life.

It’s a really hard time, but Sharon really helped me to be ready, and it helped me to handle it.

Thank you Sharon for helping me to have the strength to be able to enjoy the last precious days with my darling Mum.

K W

End of Life Eldercare Essentials
End of Life Eldercare Essentials

In this series, I’ve focused on the basics:

  • What are the documents for end of life?
  • Where can my loved one be for the end of their life?
  • What are the signs and symptoms of end of life?
  • What happens to their physical remains?
  • How can I celebrate the life of my loved one?
  • How do I cope with my loved one dying?
  • Miscellaneous and Full Q&A Session

You can participate in all of the online sessions that are of interest or get yourself fully prepared by investing in the whole series.

The costs to participate:

$44 per session or $264 for all sessions

(a saving of $44)

 

Special Bonus

Purchase the full series and get lifetime access to the sessions to go back to at any time.

This will also include free updates of the content as it occurs.

If you purchase an individual session, you will receive a recording of the session which will be available for up to 1 week.

This series commences on Tuesday April 13 and finishes on Tuesday May 25.

The sessions will be held between 7pm and 9pm (AEST)

End of life is something that will happen for all of us – hopefully later rather than sooner.  By doing this workshop series, you will be able to focus on enjoying the time with your elders, creating precious memories to treasure, and not worrying about what has to happen when the time comes.  You can relax knowing that you are prepared and have an understanding of what’s involved, the terminology and what your elder wants.

End of Life Eldercare Essentials
End of Life Eldercare Essentials
End of Life Eldercare Essentials
End of Life Eldercare Essentials

You gave me all the practical skills and understanding I needed to support and help my darling Ken when he was diagnosed with very aggressive cancer last year.  We both benefitted so much from the things you taught me. 

Through you I gained the confidence to speak up on Ken’s behalf to doctors, family members and medical staff. 

Ken had the peaceful death he wanted because you enabled and educated me (and Ken through me) to ensure this.

Kathy Mildred

I met the beautiful Sharon a few years back and was instantly taken by her authenticity.

Recently she reached out to me after hearing about my dad and her wisdom, knowledge, understanding and connectedness has made this chapter in my life so much easier.

She is across it all …

tying up loose ends, clauses for documents and most of all love.

MH

Why Do I Need To Know This Stuff?

In my work with loved one’s of people who are at the end their life, there is one major focus of the work – Helping you to avoid regret as part of your grieving experience.

Too many times I’ve heard people say:

  • I wish I’d done this
  • I wish I’d said that
  • I wish we had known what they wanted
  • I didn’t know that we could have done that
  • It would have been so much easier if we had have known that

You will grieve your loved one – that comes because you loved them. But you don’t need to feel regret and regret makes your grief a squillion times harder.

Dame Cicely Saunders, the founder of the hospice movement said this,

“How people die remains in the memory of those who live on”

And she is spot on.

By giving you some basic understandings around some of what is involved with end of life, you are taking a a massive step forward toward avoiding regret.

It will also enable you to be more present, to focus on making the most of a crappy time and creating precious memories for you to treasure, instead of scrambling to understand what’s going on.

Avoid Family Fights

There’s another reason to do this course – you want to avoid family drama and fights.  This is even more important when you think of the number of families these days that are blended. Having the documentation in place, roles clearly defined and an understanding of what happens can DRAMATICALLY lessen the chances of family disputes.

One lady shared with me that when her husband was dying, their four sons all had differing beliefs about what their dad wanted. Consequently, there were disagreements, and fights and instead of being able to focus on her husband and herself, she had to play referee. Thankfully, her husband had completed advance care planning documentation which stipulated exactly what he did and didn’t want. She was so deeply thankful as it stopped all the fights immediately.

What Does The Workshop Series Cover?

That’s a great question!! I wanted to ensure that the sessions are comprehensive and not overwhelming all at the same time. Below are details of each of the sessions and what is covered.  Each session will also include the sharing of stories as they are THE BEST way to convey the messages.

Remember, you can simply attend the session/s that interest you or you can attend all of the sessions for the best value and information.

End of Life Eldercare Essentials

Attend all of the Sessions

By attending all of the sessions, you will receive a great grounding in all the aspects you need to know.

Also, by purchasing a ticket for all sessions, you will receive lifetime access to the session contents that you can access at any time.

Commences Tuesday April 13, 2021 and finishes Tuesday May 25, 2021

Click ‘Add to Cart’ here to pay in full to attend all sessions. $264 (Save $44)

Click ‘Purchase Now’ here to make 2 payments of $140 (Save $28)

(One immediately and the final payment in one month)

End of Life Eldercare Essentials Session 1 Documentation

April 13, 7pm – 9pm (AEST)

Session 1 – What Are The Documents For End Of Life?

There’s quite a number of legal forms that exist for end of life (before and after) and they can be confusing. Along with the intro to the workshop series, this session will cover:

  • What documents are included in end of life planning
  • What are the roles of the different documents
  • How to start the conversation with your elders around these topics
  • Tips to make your life easier if you’re the person responsible (including dealing with bureaucratic BS!!)

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$44

End of Life Eldercare Essentials Session 2 Locations

April 20, 7pm – 9pm (AEST)

Session 2 – Where Can My Loved One Be For The End Of Their Life?

Did you know that you and your elder have choices about where they wish to be? And this can include their/your home? Both before and after their passing? In this session we will cover:

  • The different types of locations
  • Considerations when choosing a location
  • What you can expect with the various places
  • What is palliative care and how does it fit in

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$44

End of Life Eldercare Essentials Session 3 Signs and Symptoms

April 27, 7pm – 9pm (AEST)

Session 3 – What Are The Signs and Symptoms Of End Of Life?

What are the signs and symptoms that the end of your loved one’s life is approaching? While everyone’s experience will be different, there are some common aspects of the dying and death experience that can be part of your loved one’s journey. In this session we cover:

  • Physical/medical signs at the end of life
  • Spiritual/emotional signs at the end of life
  • Tips for coping with this

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$44

End of Life Eldercare Essentials Session 4 Remains

May 4, 7pm – 9pm (AEST)

Session 4 – What happens to their physical remains?

You might have heard of burial or cremation, but did you know there are options within those choices? In this session, we cover:

  • The different types of options for handling your loved one’s physical remains
  • Approximate costs of the various options
  • After death care – what can be done and why you’d do it
  • Organ donation

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$44

End of Life Eldercare Essentials Session 5 Ceremonies

May 11, 7pm – 9pm (AEST)

Session 5 – How Can I Celebrate The Life Of My Loved One?

The options these days are becoming much more personal and individual for ceremonies – with some even being held prior to death. In this session we cover:

  • What are the various options
  • Tips for pre-planning
  • Challenges due to Covid with ceremonies
  • Approximate costs involved
  • Tips for personalising
  • Pre-Paying/Funeral Insurance/Funeral Bonds – what are the and pros/cons

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$44

End of Life Eldercare Essentials Session 6 Emotional Stuffs

May 18, 7pm – 9pm (AEST)

Session 6 – How Do I Cope With My Loved One Dying?

This might be the hardest of all the sessions, yet it is probably the most needed. The emotional aspects of the end of life journey can throw you off balance really quickly. Having an understanding of what you may experience can help to ease that. In this session we will cover:

  • Emotions you can expect
  • Role reversal
  • How to make the most of the experience
  • Getting agreements from decision makers
  • Preventing/resolving issues
  • Self care

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$44

End of Life Eldercare Essentials Session 7 Miscellaneous and Q&A

May 25, 7pm – 9pm (AEST)

Session 7 – Miscellaneous and Q&A

In this last session, we will cover some other aspects, along with answering your questions that haven’t been covered in the other sessions. Topics will include:

  • End of Life Doulas – what they do and how they can help
  • Dementia – I provide you with some brilliant resources for this really challenging area
  • Support teams – how they work and to create them
  • Answering your questions

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$44

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this workshop series for me?

This is an intro course, designed for people who know very little or nothing about end of life. This is the basis from which the content will be presented. It is designed to give you some information that will help you understand all that is involved without overwhelming you.

I have an elder with a terminal illness. Will this workshop help me?

If you have an elder who is estimated to be in the last 3 months of their life, please carefully consider whether this is the right course and time for you. I know from personal experience and observing clients that when you are in this space, you have very limited capacity for taking in new information. There’s a helluva lot going on for you that needs your focus. I’m not going to stop you, I simply ask you to deeply consider what is right for you. And of course, if you are wanting/needing some assistance coping with everything, I’m here to help and support you.

Why did you create this workshop series?

In my work with loved one’s of people who are at the end their life, there is one major focus of the work – Helping you to avoid regret as part of your grieving experience.

Too many times I’ve heard people say:

  • I wish I’d done this
  • I wish I’d said that
  • I wish we had known what they wanted
  • I didn’t know that we could have done that
  • It would have been so much easier if we had have known that

You will grieve your loved one – that comes because you loved them. But you don’t need to feel regret and regret makes your grief a squillion times harder.

How much does this workshop series cost?

You have the choice of purchasing a ticket to attend an individual session for $44. If you wish to attend all of the sessions, the coast to attend is $264 paid in full (a saving of $44) or 2 payments, one month apart, of $140 (a saving of $28).

How is the series delivered?

I use a webinar platform called Zoom. You will receive the link to each different session a few days prior to the session.

About Your Host

Hi, I’m Sharon Tregoning and I get it. Before my Dad died, when I was 30, I knew pretty much nothing about this stuff. By the time Mum died 13yrs later, I knew a fair bit more as there’d been a number of other deaths in our family, including my only sister, but there was still stuff I wish I had known beforehand…

  • I didn’t know that I’d have to stand up to a doctor to get Mum’s wishes honoured
  • I didn’t know that Mum would be angry with me and all sweetness and light with other people
  • I didn’t know that Mum would be unconscious and at death’s door one day and sitting up and giving orders the next day
  • I didn’t know that I could have washed my Mum one last time
  • I didn’t know that there was a time limit for when Mum’s things had to be out of her unit

And this just scrapes the surface of the things I now know.

Sharon Tregoning

That was 2013. In the years since then, my work has almost exclusively been in the end of life space. I have worked in the following roles, some for a short time, some for a long time:

  • Spiritual Counsellor
  • Specialist Trainer
  • End of Life Doula
  • End of Life Celebrant
  • Funeral Director
  • Holistic Mortician
  • Staffing a Palliative Care Information and Support Line
  • Support Group Facilitator
  • Published Author

Through all of these roles and with all the people that I have served, I have learned something new every single time.

I’ve also become more aware that for a lot of people, this is a whole new world and they have no idea where to start, what they need to know or how to have the conversation with their parents.

That’s why I’m here to help you and why I created this course. I look forward to seeing you on the inside.