It’s National Palliative Care week and this week I am offering you a series of short videos (all are approx 5 mins or less) around Loved One’s Regrets and providing some suggestions and steps you can do to hopefully avoid having these experiences.
They are in no particular order and the next one is “I wish I’d known they were dying”.
This one is really tough. Knowing a loved one is on their end journey is a gift that not everyone receives, so it’s important to have awareness of the gift so that the things that need to be said and done can be said and done.
To avoid/reduce the chances of this regret, I first ask you to connect in with your intuition. Sometimes we may have a sense of what is happening but we can be frightened to ask the questions as we don’t want to know the answer. And then there will be the times when you hear a diagnosis and realise that it’s not actually a great surprise. That’s because there was something in you that had an awareness of what was going on. That’s why I am asking you to connect in with your intuition and see if you can get a sense of what may be happening.
The nest step is to then ask the questions. These may be asked of your loved one or of medical personnel. Bear in mind that if you ask your loved one, they may choose not to tell you. While I totally advocate for the truth being shared as it makes so many things possible, at the end of the day, it is still up to them, the person potentially dying, to decide what they wish to share. It is their privacy.
Medical personnel aren’t always trained in how to have conversations of this nature, so it may just take you opening the door that then allows for a wealth of information to be shared that can make the journey easier.
So, connect in with your intuition and also ask the questions.
Peace & blessings, Sharon